Although living in the countryside, surrounded by acres of fields, wide open spaces and nature, is indeed wonderful, it unfortunately has a few drawbacks. Neighbours can be far and few between, and for those living in isolated rural areas, there is little chance of a catch-up over the garden fence. Rural living therefore often results in isolation and loneliness, particularly for people moving to the countryside from towns and cities who are used to having amenities on their doorstep. Making a drastic move to the countryside is therefore not a decision to take lightly.

Community hubs such as village halls, social groups and events, and clubs and pubs are essential places that offer opportunities to socialise, make new friends, learn something new, and support the local economy. As more country pubs, local shops, and post offices close, village halls have become a lifeline for social gatherings, giving people places to meet and make friends.

When my husband and I moved away from the area where we had lived all our lives to a small community in North Yorkshire with a tiny population, we were adamant from the start that we would attend local events, make friends, and integrate into the rural way of life, and I am so pleased that we did. In less than twelve months, we had made friends and attended fun events at our local village hall, such as the annual BBQ, Pig Race, and other specialised functions, and we had even been invited to parties and meals outside the community hub. It was easier because we were a couple, and I am not sure I would have been brave enough to go along without my husband by my side. However, looking back, this needn’t have worried me, as everyone is so friendly and welcoming, and I truly look forward to the regular events held.

Community hubs not only bring people together to gather, talk, and build friendships; they also help people meet like-minded others who can share experiences and bond. Many village halls also host parent-and-toddler groups, libraries, and other activities, such as yoga and flower arranging classes.

Although not everyone lives with a husband, partner or children, many older people are left in rural areas when their spouse has died or their children have left home. However, being alone does not have to mean being lonely, and the countryside has much to offer everyone. There are times when I crave solitude, while at other times being part of a friendly community is essential for my mental wellbeing. I am very lucky to have the best of both worlds.

Our local community hall is very well attended and, as a result, has a healthy bank account. We raise funds through events where we sell tickets, and everyone pitches in. This might mean buying a prize for the raffle or bringing a cake or other dish for the BBQ.

If you have moved to a rural community, I urge you to seek out your local church and village halls, which provide a vital social heart for rural communities and foster belonging and well-being. You may even be able to contribute by helping to run or organise events and classes or by bringing something new to the table. Community-focused hubs are beneficial for everyone – people of all ages and backgrounds are welcome.



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